The Duties of the Mother by Saint John Vianney
You should never have your children sleeping
with you from the time they are two years old. If you do, you are committing a
sin. The Church did not make this law without reason. You are bound to observe
it.
But, you will say
to me, sometimes it is very cold or we are very tired.
All that, my dear
brethren, is not a reason which could excuse you in the eyes of God. Besides,
when you married, you knew quite well that you would be obliged to fulfill
certain responsibilities and obligations which are attached to the married
state.
Still, my dear
brethren, there are fathers and mothers who are so little instructed in their
religion or who are so indifferent to their duties that they will have sleeping
with them children from fifteen to eighteen years of age, and often brothers
and sisters together. Dear Lord! These poor fathers and mothers are in a
terrible state of ignorance! But, you will say, we have no bed.
You have no bed?
But it would be better to let them sleep on a chair or in a neighbour's house.
Dear Lord! The parents and children who damn themselves! But I will return to
my subject and repeat to you that all the time that you allow your children to
sleep with you after they have reached two years of age, you are offending God.
How many mothers are there who have found their children smothered in the
morning! How many mothers are present to whom this calamity has happened! And
even if the good God has preserved you from it, you are no less guilty than if,
every time your children slept with you, you found them smothered in the
morning. You do not wish to agree with this, that is to say, you do not wish to
correct it. We will wait until the Judgment, and you will be obliged to
recognise what you do not wish to recognise today.
There are mothers
who have so little religion or, if you like, are so ignorant that if they want
to show off their baby to some neighbouring mothers, they will show it to them
naked. Others, when they are putting on diapers, will leave the babies, for a
long period of time, uncovered before everyone. Now even if there is no one
present at all, you should not do this. Should you not respect the presence of
their Guardian Angels? It is the same thing when you are feeding them. Should
any Christian mother allow her breasts to remain exposed? And even if they are
covered, should she not turn aside to some place where there is no one else?
Then there are others who, under the pretext of being foster-nurses, are
continually only half-covered. This is very disgusting. It is enough to make
even the pagans blush. People are compelled to avoid their company in order not
to expose themselves to evil thoughts.
But, you will say
to me, even if everyone is around, we must feed our children and change their
diapers when they cry! And I shall tell you that when they cry, you ought to do
everything you possibly can to quieten them but that it is a far better thing
to let them cry a little than to offend God. Alas! How many mothers are the
cause of evil glances, of bad thoughts, of immodest touches!
Tell me, are these the Christian mothers who
should be so reserved? Oh, dear God! What judgment should they expect? Others
are so cruel that they let their children run around for the whole morning,
during the summer, only half-dressed. Tell me, unhappy people, would it not be
better for you to take your places among the savage beasts? Where is your
religion, then, and your anxiety to do your duty? Alas! As far as religion is
concerned, you have none. As for your duties, have you ever known what they
were? That you have not, you give proof every day. Ah, poor children, how
unfortunate you are to belong to such parents!
By
Saint John Vianney
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